Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Quality Time: Valentine's Day Based on the 8 Love Languages

“In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, ‘I love you,’ like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of man is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby. " - The 5 Love Languages

So what do you do with a man who thrives on Quality Time? The key here isn’t to just do something together (e.g. see a movie or go to a sporting event). You need to do something that causes you to interact fully.

Make a BIG meal together. For those who are cooks, this can be a truly enriching time. Try making something a little more in-depth like homemade pizza. Enjoy the process of pizza - from kneading the dough to watching it rise (or finding something else to do while it rises, ahem) to assembling the toppings. Pour a glass of wine and spend some time in the kitchen together.

[note: if you need the Muses to share their delectable recipe for homemade goat cheese & argula pizza, they will indulge you. Just ask]

Or grab Table for Two: French Recipes for Romantic Dining and try some of its fantastic 2-serving recipes like Quail in Baume de Venise stuffed with arugula, apples and currants or Chocolate mousse with candied ginger.

Go to your favorite coffee shop or bar to sip on drinks and have long talks - or just to be in each other's presence while perusing the New York Times.

If you live in a place that is freezing or flooded, grab a good book and read to each other (if you have a fireplace, we are SO jealous right now).

If your current locale is not covered in snow or torrential rains, find a nearby place to go hiking together.

Or find a time when you can do exactly what he wants to do (not just what you project he'd like to do) - listen to him recount the last Ken Burns documentary he watched on PBS and ask questions so he knows he gets to teach you something you didn't know ("So what he's saying is that Jack Johnson was the rebel of the progressive era...?)

Bottom line: enjoy it, don't dictate it. Quality time is all about just being together.

1 comment:

  1. I love the muses. I can't wait to see what some of the rest of these ideas are!